Nothing is worse than saying no to an opportunity because you didn’t complete everything else that needs to be done. Procrastination will interfere with opportunities and take away your ability to grow. Front-load everything you can so that when “Life Happens” or “Opportunity Knocks,” you are ready to say yes.
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If you want to Force the Future, you must always compete—not just when things are good, not just when you are winning, not just when the weather is good, not just when you had a good night’s sleep.
You must always compete.
Competing is the process. It is the journey. It is what allows you to force the future.
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Nothing caps a good meal like a good dessert. I love dessert, especially if it is delicious. My wife and I drive to our favorite patisserie on the last Sunday of each month to have breakfast, and yes, we have dessert. It is worth the calories, and we are so full we usually skip lunch.
When I tell people this, I get strange reactions.
Life should not be about doing things that others want or expect. Life should be about doing what you want regardless of others’ norms.
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At this point, we are prepared. We are not letting our past overwhelm our future; our preparation allows us to worry less about the future. Now, what do I do? It is time to build the habits we need to force the future. Building habits today is the most important thing we can do to force the future. By building habits, we adopt the skills and characteristics we want to have in the future.
Take time today to map out the future you want, determine the habits you need to succeed, and start implementing the habits immediately.
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Force the Future #1
Too often, people tell me they are scared of what the future will offer them. Maybe they will get an awful disease; they will not find the “one” to spend the rest of their lives with; they will not reach their goals; they will not be able to afford the future they want; they will not get into the school of their dreams, etc. These concerns are legitimate, but worrying about the future will not help you thrive and survive. To have a better chance of succeeding in the future, you must start those habits today that will influence your future most. I term this idea as Force the Future.
How do you force the future? The solution is easy: develop those habits and skills today that will force the future. Forcing the future does not mean you will get everything you want, but it does mean you have more say in influencing your future successes.
Case in point, if you are worried about living your future life as a fat person, spend the time now to develop healthy eating habits. If you are worried about financial security, start putting money (if you already do, add more) aside in an interest-bearing investment. If you are concerned about the effects of a bad habit you have, start doing your research on the habit to find the best strategies for stopping it before it influences your future. None of these guarantees success, but it forces your future to work harder to overcome the foundations you have laid for it.
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I hate working out without a plan. A good plan keeps me focused and on the path to my goals. Without a plan, my workouts falter. I need to plan when I am relaxed, not when my endurance and strength are challenged. Watch those in the gym and see if you can tell who has a plan and who doesn’t, not just for their workouts but for life.
Workouts should be challenging and invigorating, neither of which will take place if you do not have a plan.
Make a plan, practice the plan, execute the plan, and crush your goals.
Stay Healthy, Stay Strong.
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We had our first significant snowfall last week. I was disappointed to see the number of drivers on the road with their cars coated in inches of snow. We need to take more time to educate the general populace, as this is a rampant problem. Over and over again, I would see chunks of snow from these cars fly off toward the vehicles behind them. It is a hazardous situation. Snow does not belong on your car.
Several industry leaders have made it a point to spread the message. According to Continental Tires’ website, “Driving with snow on your car is dangerous and potentially a violation of the law.” Car and Driver cites several examples where drivers have gotten injured or died because snow from a car in front of them went hurtling toward their vehicle. Snow does not belong on your car.
Snow does not belong on your car. Don’t wait for the air resistance to force the snow onto an unsuspecting driver behind you. Be proactive and get the job done. Owning a broom or an ice scraper to clear snow should be as essential as affording a car, gas, and insurance. Of course, this is meaningless if you do not use the broom you own to remove the snow.
If you get behind a car with snow, give the car more room than you usually would. You must have time to react to any snow that is sent hurtling toward you and your vehicle. When stuck behind a car or truck with unremoved snow, you want to pay more attention to your three mirrors to know where to get out of the hurtling snow’s path. If you get a chance, record the license plate and send in a complaint in the hopes someone can take the action needed to make the roads safer before it is too late.
Just Be Better (and get rid of the snow on your car)
Stay Strong, Stay Healthy.
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I hope you are having a safe and happy holiday season.
This is the time I start hearing people talk about resolutions. The number of people discussing resolutions beginning on the New Year is exhausting. I do not waste my time engaging in these conversations. If someone wants to change right now, I will engage and support them. I have a workout partner who wants to be a black belt by the end of 2024. This person is not unhappy that they are “only” a brown belt, but they want to build on their mastery and understanding of Taekwondo.
I am not trying to be a ”Scrooge” to others who do not understand that postponing change is a predictor of falling short of one’s goals. I struggle with engaging with those who write resolutions based on their unhappiness. They develop goals mired in negativity. Establishing goals on a negative is another method to set yourself up for failure.
I hardly hear people speak about setting resolutions based on a good thing they want to improve. I want to listen to people develop their resolutions on growth, not unhappiness. Resolutions from a positive perspective are more likely to succeed. For example, “I want to lose another 10 pounds.” is based on negativity. It includes the word lose and implies that one is fat. It does not focus on anything they are doing well. Another way to state this goal is to say, “I want to be 10 pounds lighter so I can fit into my size 32 jeans.” This statement is based on two goals: 10 pounds lighter and 32” waste. This statement is a much better design. They want to build on the positive things they have accomplished and be more successful. You cannot base your future on positive results when you are mired in a negative present and hope to be successful.
If you are making a resolution, base it on positive things. Take what you are doing and look to make it better. Base the resolution on positive outcomes and refuse to use any negatives in the development process or the final statement. You are doing things well and want to improve on them, which is the best perspective.
Send me your goals. I would be happy to provide feedback.
Happy New Year, and Good Luck with your Goals!!
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Stay Healthy, Stay Strong.
The other day, our HVAC technician did not show up within the 4-hour window I had scheduled with his company. No company member called to let us know they would be late. This is odd because the technician works for an outstanding company and does excellent work. After the window had elapsed, I called the company and enquired about the missed appointment. The agent told me there was an accident, and they were backed up for the day. I asked why they did not call to let us know there was an issue and either change or reschedule the appointment. That’s when I got the overused and underdelivered “Sorry.”
I loathe this word. The word sorry is a gesture; it is not an action. It does not solve the problem. Everyone rushes to use the term when things are not perfect. I wish everyone rushed to fix the issues first. The overuse of the word has got to stop. If you own up to your mistake, thank you for owning it, but I want to know how you will solve it. Finally, most of the time, people tell me they are sorry but will do nothing to ensure it does not happen again.
After being told sorry by the agent, she said that the technician would be at my house in 20 minutes. It wasn’t until 45 minutes later that the technician told me he was 40 minutes away and would be by shortly. This timeline did not coincide with what the ever-sorrowful agent told me. (The agent’s fault, not the technician’s, who did great work and got everything in order.)
I do not like it when people do not follow up their words with their actions. Only make a promise or a statement if you will back it up. And most definitely, do not tell me you are sorry unless you genuinely take those steps to ensure it never happens again.
Just Be Better
Stay Strong, Stay Healthy.
I prefer experts who practice what they preach. When learning about health and nutrition with others, I sometimes encounter those who need to realize what they are talking about and what their body shows needs to be better aligned. They fail to recognize that one’s body is the best food journal. Feed your body correctly, keep your nutrition on point consistently, hydrate well, and your body will tell the world.
Just Be Better
Stay Healthy, Stay Strong
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