I prefer experts who practice what they preach. When discussing health and nutrition with others, I sometimes encounter those who need to realize what they are talking about and what their body shows needs to be aligned. They fail to recognize that one’s body is the best food journal. Feed your body correctly, consistently keep your nutrition on point, hydrate well, and in the end, your body will preach your health and nutrition to the world.
Just Be Better
Stay Healthy, Stay Strong
I hope you are having a safe and happy holiday season.
This is the time I start hearing people talk about resolutions. The number of people discussing resolutions beginning on the New Year is exhausting. I do not waste my time engaging in these conversations. If someone wants to change right now, I will engage and support them. I have a workout partner who wants to be a black belt by the end of 2024. This person is not unhappy that they are “only” a brown belt, but they want to build on their mastery and understanding of Taekwondo.
I am not trying to be a ”Scrooge” to others who do not understand that postponing change is a predictor of falling short of one’s goals. I struggle with engaging with those who write resolutions based on their unhappiness. They develop goals mired in negativity. Establishing goals on a negative is another method to set yourself up for failure.
I hardly hear people speak about setting resolutions based on a good thing they want to improve. I want to listen to people develop their resolutions on growth, not unhappiness. Resolutions from a positive perspective are more likely to succeed. For example, “I want to lose another 10 pounds.” is based on negativity. It includes the word lose and implies that one is fat. It does not focus on anything they are doing well. Another way to state this goal is to say, “I want to be 10 pounds lighter so I can fit into my size 32 jeans.” This statement is based on two goals: 10 pounds lighter and 32” waste. This statement is a much better design. They want to build on the positive things they have accomplished and be more successful. You cannot base your future on positive results when you are mired in a negative present and hope to be successful.
If you are making a resolution, base it on positive things. Take what you are doing and look to make it better. Base the resolution on positive outcomes and refuse to use any negatives in the development process or the final statement. You are doing things well and want to improve on them, which is the best perspective.
Send me your goals. I would be happy to provide feedback.
Happy New Year, and Good Luck with your Goals!!
Just Be Better
Stay Healthy, Stay Strong.
If I am doing my job, each charge should know the feedback they will receive at their annual evaluation meeting before it occurs. Through my actions and communications throughout the year, each employee should know what I expect from them, how I view their performance, and what changes they need to make. If I am doing my job well, my staff should never be surprised by the feedback they receive at their evaluation meeting. The meeting will digress and waste time if I do my job poorly.
Evaluations should be about growth. I want the feedback I give and receive to focus on changing behavior and improving performance. It’s the meeting that sets up our goals for the New Year.
Prepare and work to get what you want out of every meeting. Nothing less. Ensure your staff knows what you think of their performance and focus on the desired result you want them to achieve
Just Be Better
Stay Healthy, Stay Strong.
The other day, our HVAC technician did not show up within the 4-hour window I had scheduled with his company. No company member called to let us know they would be late. This is odd because the technician works for an outstanding company and does excellent work. After the window had elapsed, I called the company and enquired about the missed appointment. The agent told me there was an accident, and they were backed up for the day. I asked why they did not call to let us know there was an issue and either change or reschedule the appointment. That’s when I got the overused and underdelivered “Sorry.”
I loathe this word. The word sorry is a gesture; it is not an action. It does not solve the problem. Everyone rushes to use the term when things are not perfect. I wish everyone rushed to fix the issues first. The overuse of the word has got to stop. If you own up to your mistake, thank you for owning it, but I want to know how you will solve it. Finally, most of the time, people tell me they are sorry but will do nothing to ensure it does not happen again.
After being told sorry by the agent, she said that the technician would be at my house in 20 minutes. It wasn’t until 45 minutes later that the technician told me he was 40 minutes away and would be by shortly. This timeline did not coincide with what the ever-sorrowful agent told me. (The agent’s fault, not the technician’s, who did great work and got everything in order.)
I do not like it when people do not follow up their words with their actions. Only make a promise or a statement if you will back it up. And most definitely, do not tell me you are sorry unless you genuinely take those steps to ensure it never happens again.
Just Be Better
Stay Strong, Stay Healthy.
Do not whine to me about how busy you are.
To me, busy means…
You are employed.
You have a goal.
People rely on you.
I cannot tell you how often collaborators tell me how busy they are. I am confident that if you were not busy and in demand, I would not collaborate with you. We are all busy doing the things that we want to do.
Instead, I prefer potential partners to tell me that they do not want to collaborate on a project. It is ok to say no to an opportunity. Be honest, but don’t whine.
Just Be Better
Stay Strong, Stay Healthy
I hate when people tell me, “I am so busy!” If they are looking for some sort of “victim reassurance,” I am the wrong guy to talk to.
Do you know what busy means?
Do not tell me you are so busy. Stop whining, embrace it, and move forward.
Just Be Better
Stay Strong, Stay Healthy
Everyday is an Interview 