Tag: IowntheMorning

Driving Lessons from a Commute: Stay Safe and Sane

My wife and I had the rare opportunity to drive to work together. I am glad we did. We kept each other calm as one driver decided to use the morning commute as a tryout for a live Frogger event. She weaved in and out of traffic. Each time she would reenter a lane, she cut off another driver. At one point, she was so frustrated with the speed in the left “passing” lane that she darted into the right lane without looking, forcing the driver in the right lane to veer off the road.

There is no excuse for this. 

Driving recklessly in an emergency will not improve your chances of reaching your destination. The priority should be arriving safely, not on time.

If the person was driving recklessly because they were late, they should have front-loaded their day better not to endanger the lives of those around them.

#JustBeBetter

#StayStrong, StayHealthy

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Roll With It

I love playing music with my friends. I have been playing music with the same drummer for over 35 years. We no longer play many shows, but I always look forward to the next one.

This weekend, we had the opportunity to perform two songs with a friend who has sung with us for the last two years. Our friend hosted an open mic at an outdoor fair and wanted us to perform two songs to encourage others to get up and sing. I was happy to do this little gig, but as always, there were challenges.

  • I found out about the show the night before. Roll With It! I always like to prepare and practice, so the songs are second nature before we play them live. I needed extra practice time since we had not played a live show in about ten months, and I have been focusing on other musical goals. We could not work out a practice session on short notice. We all suggested songs. None of my suggestions were picked (not an issue). I practiced the two chosen songs. Instead of complaining about the short time to practice, I focused on the task. In the end, I was pleased with my preparation of the songs, but I had many questions about the technical setup for the show.
  • The drummer and the singer planned to sing while I accompanied them on the guitar. This lineup is not a problem, as it is a more straightforward setup. However, it relies on using other people’s equipment. In this case, we would use someone else’s PA system. With very little information, I had to figure out the PA system and decide which gear to bring (Read the previous blog “Balance” about only bringing what I needed). Roll With It! Since we had to “hike” in our gear, I took a guitar, two cables, a DI box to hook my guitar to the PA, and two cables.
  • When I got to the gig, I discovered the PA system was not good. Roll With It! There were no monitors to hear me or the singers.  Five minutes before we were supposed to go on, the singer asked if I would accompany a young singer on a song I knew and had performed in the past. No practice time. Roll With It! Halfway through the song, the cable PA conks out. Roll With It! It was a bad cable that I replaced with one of mine. The young singer was good but needed to know when to enter each verse of the song. I altered the song’s structure to help and support her. Roll with It!  She was so pleased that she sang a second song later in the day.
  • My bandmates are awesome people, but they are constantly changing their minds. We were first supposed to open the show to encourage others to come up and sing. Since more people than expected signed up for slots, we played towards the end. Roll With It! Giving those two time to “think” about our songs is always a bad idea. Remember, they picked the songs we would perform, and we chose their picks. As we were getting ready to go on stage, the two of them changed the first song we would play. Roll with it. I had no time to practice or get our stage confidence by starting with a well-practiced song. The only thing to rely on was hoping  I have a good memory and can remember the song structure, chords, and changes. Roll with It!

Despite all of this, it was a good show. We played well. We will continue to do a few of these as I write the next album. 

What did I learn? Roll With It! The only way to do this is to keep a good attitude so that others remember the joy we feel playing music as a group (and hopefully, someone in the audience plays bass and wants to join the band).

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#Stay Healthy, Stay Strong

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Balance

There is much talk about achieving and maintaining a work-life balance. I do not believe in work-life balance. Work is part of my life. Over the years, I have determined when it should be a priority. I also know when it should take a back seat. 

Each person struggles with balancing their priorities. I need to be prepared for any situation. At the same time, I strive to be a minimalist and not take more than I need. I do not like bringing more than I need to an event or task. But I also hate being unprepared. One reason for my minimalist approach is that bringing backup supplies starts a chain reaction. I end up with too many things I do not need. 

Here are some examples

I have a gig where I need a guitar, a pedal board, an amp, and cables. I prepared the packing list. Before I knew it, my car had four guitars, three amps, and two pedal boards. Despite all of the gear, I will end up using one guitar, one pedal board, one amp, and some cables.

The same thing happens when I go on vacation or play golf. I over pack and end up carrying things I do not need. It is one thing to have an extra pair of socks. Having an extra suitcase or golf bag you will never open is another. Also, I should never bring extra “toys” to golf until I learn to hit the ball straight. At that point, I will not need the “toys” anyway.

I preach the minimalist approach to my private students. Only take what you need to take a high-stakes test. There is no need to bring large equation sheets when three equations will solve over 95% of the problems. A large equation sheet will not finish the quest for the other 5%. One can only achieve such success through meaningful practice, AKA preparation.

How do I find balance? I review everything I need and do not need after each event. I am ruthless. Did I bring something I did not need? Did I forget something (once is human, a second time is unacceptable)? What challenges occurred that I was not prepared for? In doing so, I developed running lists for different events. These include an extended vacation and a short vacation. Other events include a beach trip, golf with my friends and family, small gigs, and practice. This ongoing process has allowed me to balance being a minimalist and being prepared.

Balance is an ongoing process. You have to work on it. It must be important to you. You must learn from what you do. Good luck with your balance.

#Just Be Better

#Stay Healthy, Stay Strong

#Be prepared

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Consistency: The Key to Building Lasting Habits

Habits are formed when consistent action is taken.

If I want to learn a song, I must consistently practice it. Consistently, day after day. No Excuses.

To learn a new technique in Taekwondo, I must consistently practice it—consistently, day after day—without excuses.

If I want to get stronger, I move heavy things—consistently, day after day—without excuses.

If I want to get leaner, I must eat well—consistently, day after day—without excuses.

New habits do not come because you manifest them. They go because you work at them consistently. There is no magic number, i.e., 21 days, 60 days, etc. It is up to you and how consistently your practice it.

Pick one, get started, be consistent.

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#Stay Healthy, Stay Strong

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Know Where You are Going

Few things are worse than getting stuck behind a driver who does not know where they are going. They break at every intersection, trying to figure out if this is the one they need to turn. They are in the wrong lane when making the turn. They are dangerous to everyone else on the road, including drivers, passengers, and pedestrians. They are frustrating and challenging to contend with.

This problem can be solved if people are willing to take the time to prepare themselves for where they are going. It is pretty easy to do. Any search engine can provide you with directions and a map. Review them beforehand and be safer on the road.

#Just Be Better

#Stay Healthy, Stay Strong

#Be Prepared

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#7 – Meetings

I am not a fan of unproductive meetings. The main culprits are unprepared participants. Attending or leading a meeting you did not prepare for is disrespectful to yourself and others. It is even worse when an unprepared attendee wastes everyone’s time participating in the meeting.

Don’t waste my time, don’t waste others time, don’t waste your time. Be prepared.

#Just Be Better

#Stay Healthy, Stay Strong

#Be Prepared

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#6 – Life Happens

Life Happens, and we need to equip ourselves to react to it. The best way to respond is to be prepared. We can only prepare so much for things we cannot foresee. However, we can prepare by frontloading our schedules to free up time for when our priorities need to shift. The more you get done at the beginning of a workflow (week, day, session, etc.), the more you can meet the unexpected challenges you face. No matter how well you plan, there will always be times when your priorities, schedule, and times are challenged. Be prepared. Frontload your workflow.

#Just Be Better

#Stay Healthy, Stay Strong

#Be Prepared

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Front Loading – Workouts

   It’s not that I hate working out at night; I hate thinking about how I still have to. I start the day with a small workout. When I get home from work, I get changed and hit the weight room or go outside for a run. Sometimes, I do both. This timing does not work for everyone, but it works for me.

Opportunity is another reason for front-loading my workouts. I do not want to say no to opportunities because I have not achieved my goals for the day, and I do not want to sacrifice my daily goals for an opportunity I did not anticipate. I don’t miss workouts. By frontloading my workouts, I can get the important things done and out of the way so I can be more receptive to the unscheduled possibilities of the day.

Have a great early workout, and be prepared to say yes to the opportunities that come your way.

#Just Be Better

#Stay Healthy, Stay Strong

#I Own the Morning.

Front-Loading Your Work for Success

I have a saying at work: “Life Happens.” This mantra reflects my reality—things rarely go as planned. When unexpected changes occur, it’s crucial to adapt and re-prioritize my goals. If I don’t front-load my work, I risk getting stuck in an endless cycle of catching up when “Life Happens.”

To stay ahead, I front-load my work in two key ways:

  1. Make Mondays Count: I make Mondays my busiest day of the week, tackling as many tasks as possible before plans inevitably shift.
  2. Own the Morning: I aim to get as many tasks done in the morning as possible. This approach ensures I can better meet the continuously changing needs of my staff and clients.

Without front-loading, I wouldn’t be as successful, effective, or efficient as I strive to be. This strategy means less work to bring home at night or on weekends, less stress, and greater capacity to support my team and clients. Front-loading enables me to react to change swiftly and focus on helping others when they need it most.

Give it a try and see how it transforms your workday!

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#Stay Healthy, Stay Strong

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Front Loading – Financials

     I am always trying to front-load my money. I do this by placing more into savings at the beginning of a cycle, paying additional principal early in the loan cycle (it is funny how I do not miss the money), saving up money for big purchases, and making sure I put money away for the “regular” expenses I encounter, such as event gifts ( i.e., birthdays, graduations, etc.), landscaping, training, etc. I can only meet the financial demands if I plan my expenditures and stay disciplined with my saving protocols. I check my balances every week and ensure that my current goals and expenditures align with my future plans (retirement and grandchildren/golf/travel). The more I front load, the easier it is for me to adapt when “life” hits and I must divert my money elsewhere. 

I put money aside each month to pay off unforeseen issues with our house. This year, we needed to divert money to pay for a costly and unexpected repair. Luckily, I had already saved up a good portion of the expense, so the hit to our other expenditure and savings streams, i.e., the vacation fund, did not take as big of a hit. By front-loading, I avoided being a victim of life’s little surprises.

Front-loading is a key to my financial success. Try it out, and let me know how it works for you.

#Just Be Better

#Stay Healthy, Stay Strong

#I Own the Morning.