Tag: mind set

Be Prepared: The Expert

When someone asks me a question about my area of concentration, I expect to be able to give them a great answer. I pride myself on being the expert on my topics. When I cannot provide a great answer, it is because I am unprepared. I strive to be the expert in the room on my topic, and I work on this daily.

Preparation is the key to success. The more you prepare, the more you develop your expertise. Keep working so that others can rely on you as their expert on your topic.

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Genuine

Everyone likes a compliment. However, if you want the compliment to be valued by the recipient, it has to be meaningful. We all know the person who compliments us like there is no tomorrow. Over time, people react similarly to the comment as they eventually did to Little Boy Blue.

Give authentic compliments. The idea is to help others feel good about themselves. The best way to do this is to give a compliment based on effort, based on the reality of their results, and only when deserved. It is great to be a nice person, but it is better to be an authentic person.

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Reaction

At the end of a wonderful weekend, the power went out suddenly around 8 p.m. The blackout was only the third time we had one in seven years. Unfortunately, all three occurred within the last calendar year. It was not what we wanted, and it threw a wrench into our plans to prepare for the new work and academic week. We could have easily chosen to play the victims and complained until our power was restored. We didn’t. This challenge was our time to shine. Instead of complaining about the situation we had no control over, we could take control, find backup lanterns, get a good book, and spend the evening reading or talking. It is amazing what can get done without 21st-century technology. However, this could only happen with having already developed good habits to rely on and the mindset that a challenge is an opportunity to get better (and having the right batteries for our lanterns).

What would you do in this situation? Either way, be prepared; implementing your answer will be much easier.

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Force the Future #5 – Have Difficult Conversations

Sometimes, to get the future you want, you have to tell others what they do not want to hear. These discussions can be uncomfortable and unpleasant, but the temporary discomfort is far less than the long-term regret that comes from not getting the future you want. Do not walk away from the difficult conversation. Prepare for them and remain clear on what you wish to communicate, even when the other person reacts emotionally to the information they receive.

# Force the Future

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Force the Future #3

The best route to success is forged with your preparation. Preparing has significantly influenced my accomplishments, and not preparing is one of the biggest reasons for my failures. I believe in “Force the Future” because it encourages us to prepare for the future we want by working today to develop the habits we need to be successful. No matter what you desire for your future, the better your preparation, the better your chances for success. If you want it in the de, force it by preparing for it today.

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Force the Future #2

People continually tell us to learn from the past. I agree with this but to a point. So often, I see people spend so much time learning from the past that they forget to focus on the future, much less the present. Sometimes, you must put aside learning from the past to force the future. 

In working with an individual who was unhappy with last quarter’s results, we mapped out strategies to help him reach his goals in the next term. At the end of the meeting, he told me how much the previous results had affected him. I informed him this was an excellent opportunity to learn from the past and develop the skills and strategies to succeed moving forward. However, we were not going to dwell on the past and address what had happened in the previous quarter until we saw the results of the following two terms. You could see the relief on his face, knowing he could put the past behind him and focus on forcing the future.

When you have negative results, learn from them, but not at the expense of forcing the future.

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Resolutions (Repeated)

It has been a few weeks into the new year, and it is time to assess your resolution(s). First, are you still keeping your resolution(s)? Are you still making the changes you wanted to make a few weeks ago?  Most people have failed to keep their New Year’s Resolutions as of this week. Change is hard. You have to be smart (one change at a time), and you have to be focused, not on the goal, but on the reason for the goal.

Next, do you have new changes that you want to make? Are you going to wait 351 days until next year? 

If you want to be successful, the answer to the last two questions is a resounding NO. If you want to be successful, you will make those changes today, not tomorrow, and not on New Year’s Day. Do not wait for New Year’s Resolutions, as most people have given up their resolutions, and make the change now.

What is your change going to be? 

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Stick to the Plan

I hope you are enjoying the New Year.

Did you make any resolutions? If you did, take comfort in the fact that many are navigating the challenges of their New Year’s Resolutions. It is never easy to make change permanent, and permanence is the point of a New Year’s resolution. The key is to take incremental steps. Desmond Tutu, who I had the privilege to see speak, once said, “There is only one way to eat an elephant, one bite at a time.” The same goes for making changes permanent. You cannot do it all at once. You have to take small, continual steps. You have to be consistent. You have to be patient. You have to stick to the plan. (The better the planning, the more permanent the change)

Now is the time when self-doubt about this year’s change will creep into your mind. Find strength in the reason why you want to make this change and visualize what life will look like for you once this change is made. Stick to the Plan

Good luck.

Happy New Year.

Just Be Better.

Stay Healthy, Stay Strong.

Resolutions

I hope you are having a safe and happy holiday season.

This is the time I start hearing people talk about resolutions. The number of people discussing resolutions beginning on the New Year is exhausting. I do not waste my time engaging in these conversations. If someone wants to change right now, I will engage and support them. I have a workout partner who wants to be a black belt by the end of 2024. This person is not unhappy that they are “only” a brown belt, but they want to build on their mastery and understanding of Taekwondo.

I am not trying to be a ”Scrooge” to others who do not understand that postponing change is a predictor of falling short of one’s goals. I struggle with engaging with those who write resolutions based on their unhappiness. They develop goals mired in negativity. Establishing goals on a negative is another method to set yourself up for failure.

I hardly hear people speak about setting resolutions based on a good thing they want to improve. I want to listen to people develop their resolutions on growth, not unhappiness. Resolutions from a positive perspective are more likely to succeed. For example, “I want to lose another 10 pounds.” is based on negativity. It includes the word lose and implies that one is fat. It does not focus on anything they are doing well. Another way to state this goal is to say, “I want to be 10 pounds lighter so I can fit into my size 32 jeans.” This statement is based on two goals: 10 pounds lighter and 32” waste. This statement is a much better design. They want to build on the positive things they have accomplished and be more successful. You cannot base your future on positive results when you are mired in a negative present and hope to be successful.

If you are making a resolution, base it on positive things. Take what you are doing and look to make it better. Base the resolution on positive outcomes and refuse to use any negatives in the development process or the final statement. You are doing things well and want to improve on them, which is the best perspective.

Send me your goals. I would be happy to provide feedback.

Happy New Year, and Good Luck with your Goals!!

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Stay Healthy, Stay Strong.

Too Busy

Do not whine to me about how busy you are.

To me, busy means…

You are employed.

You have a goal.

People rely on you.

I cannot tell you how often collaborators tell me how busy they are. I am confident that if you were not busy and in demand, I would not collaborate with you. We are all busy doing the things that we want to do.

Instead, I prefer potential partners to tell me that they do not want to collaborate on a project. It is ok to say no to an opportunity. Be honest, but don’t whine.

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Stay Strong, Stay Healthy